In my Opinion:Counter Blog, I'm never doing this again!

Its come to my attention that women are whinny bitches. We crave attention, we're looking for the perfect guy, we're picky, we expect too much and guys go out of their way to impress us and for us to only reject them when we are not interested. Boo Hoo!

We should expect more! Wow you spend a whole hour getting ready to go to a bar and hit on a poor girl. Lets break down what a girl has to do on any given day just to step out her door:

1. Shower

2. Shave legs etc.

3. Pick out the outfit which consists not only on occasion, season, person they're meeting, style, brand, and comfort level

4. Nails

5. Shoes

6. Hair (Ironing, drying, gelling, mousing, shine, hair spray, curling, texturing)

7. Make-up and I'm not going to into detail here

8. Accessories

9. Purse

10. Making sure you have anything you can possibly need in case of emergency

Every poor girl has to go through this process no matter what they're doing. For what reason? So a guy can ask for your number who is wearing too much cologne or looking for random play? This is the reason we work so hard to look good. So a guy takes a 20 minute shower and irons a shirt and we're suppose to swoon. No thank you! Call me picky, call me demanding, call me shallow, call me vain but don't call me if you think you have it harder than us.

First,times are changing and more and more girls are making the first move. Secondly, if you are being picking up girls at bar or club they're not Mrs. right, they're Mrs. right now.

I love to look pretty and I don't mind the hours I spend in front of the mirror but that's a personal choice.

I'm sure if you are reading this blog on a regular basis you have no idea why I am writing this or maybe you do. This is out of my comfort level and I am only writing this because someone asked me for my opinion. I'm sure it doesn't matter what I think and I will stay true to form and continue writing what is personal in my own life. I'm not going to write a counter blog to someone else's, because its dumb to say the least. So this is a one time thing!

**This is what I think...I think its easy being a guy. I think its harder for a girl to go out there. I think we both get hurt guys and gals. I think romance is dead. I think its hard to be a sap and tell someone how you really feel. I think its sad people blog to get their opinions heard. I think its funny that blogs are soap boxes to stand on and tell people what's on your mind. I hate being whinny and emotional. I hate when people take things too seriously. Relax. Life happens and rarely takes time to wonder if you're going to be OK with it so, deal with it however you can. **

The Plan

I want to share my new philosophy.
I'm going through stuff in my life. My Ex-boyfriend broke up with me while internship, I had to flee my apartment and live with a fun crazy. I got an account on match.com. I've gone on dates, made new friends, and started to reanalyze things. To sum things up, I've changed.
I don't think things are as important as people make them to be. Things happen for a reason and life might have a purpose or maybe we just are someones pawns and we never find out why we go through all these crazy challenges. I like to think there's a purpose to why I had to be dumped and treated the way I was treated and that in the long run this will all make sense and its all part of the "plan". I'm a true believer in the plan and because I'm such a believer in this plan I have hundreds of stories that relate with insufferable parts of life. Like being laid off, dumped, moving, changing schools, changing friends, and any life altering events. I sometimes sound condescending and no, I don't know everything but I hope sometimes my stories give people insight or guidance. Sometimes my stories make sense and have purpose and sometimes they're just whimsical and can make you laugh because you know someone has it worse than you. I read this self-help book after I got broken up with.
Yeah, the textbook learner read a self-help book to get over her break-up. I know pathetic, I know. Anyway the book wasn't like this great realization of things I didn't know but more like Hey, Retard! You are not in the same boat as the crazies in this book. Yeah, you're a little messed up but things will get better, chin up and smile.
Its easier to be the pessimist and sit around and sulk. Its easy to be the downer and not care about anyone but yourself. Its also easier to just go home and cry and mope and not do anything but I realized, that's not me.
When the first guy I ever liked dumped me, I fixed stuff. I got my "shit together", yes, its hard to do sometimes but you have to move on, even when you don't want to. Yeah, I've done things I'm not proud of and stuff I have learned from. I've learned I can't trust anyone but myself and I've had to grow up in the last few years and set boundaries. I'm not afraid to let people in because even if you are scared you can learn something from them. There's always something you can learn from someone new.
I'm the girl that falls for someone too quickly. I'm the girl that gives everyone a chance with red flags and all. I'm the girl who sees past the bitter and even crazy and sees a person trying really hard to get stuff together. I see all this because I am that person too. I love a new challenge. Yes, I'm complicated but so is everyone.
Things change, people change and things happen for a reason. There is a plan and sometimes it doesn't unravel like you want it but there is a plan. But at the end you realize that is part of the plan and you go with it and sometimes you have to just chin-up and smile and roll with it.

What's New?

So I'm the type of girl who would never dream of over complicate things and likes to live a drama free life. So, when any red flags come up I go running for the hills. "Oh, you've been married and you have a kid?" Well that only means he fell in love and you know made a mistake. He totally deserves a second chance and you know who better than myself to take on more luggage. Pile it on!

I've made a few mistakes in the last few years when it comes to relationships and you know what at this point, I think its trail and error. So some work, some don't, and some you should have let go a hell of a lot earlier but you go along with the ride because you don't know where you will end. Some relationships you end up with your head in a toilet after drinking entirely too many bottles of wine and listening to Bonnie Tyler too many for any person with a soul. And sometimes you end up in places like Chicago,they're not all bad.

Why do you we like to over complicate things?

Why do we still end up with the same scenario time and time again? Or is it just me? I mean sometimes I think I can't attract a regular human being. I can't attract a guy who I don't know... doesn't have problems.That's harsh everyone has problems. I have problems by the buckets but if I have problems why can't the other person be stable.

I mean dealing with my problems right now is troublesome enough.

Ok..Ok..I'm being a little dramatic now.

I guess seeing this from another perspective might be clearer: I have problems therefore normal people might not want to date me seeing crazy red flags and all.

So maybe when I see red flags now I should think well, I know my red flags are waving high. Give them a chance. People go through a lot of things in their lives that I'm sure they don't want to go through like root canals and crazy break-ups and co-existing with ex's which is like having a root canal without the Novocaine.

As much as you don't want to date with someone who is still living with an ex or for some reason has 2 apartments.Leases are difficult and costly to break and well sometimes relationships end before the end of a lease which is kind of frightening and sad but it happens. Its happened to me and dealing with the situation has been difficult for all parties involved.

*Breathe* RELAX! *Breathe*

I'm thinking too much into this I'm over complicated this and this is entirely too much drama...What's new?