Success

Lately I've been thinking how we rate someones success and for that reason I feel people rate you successful in 2 aspects. One would be how much money you have and secondly if you are in a relationship. Now granted the first one is something of merit, something you work hard and you get ahead but the latter is luck. It has nothing to do about how you present yourself or how great you maybe. It has to do if you are at the right place, if you are actually looking for a relationship, and the other person is ready to also be in a relationship with you. This has nothing to do with hard work. I spend a lot of time discussing failures and the process that goes into dealing with these failures. Emotional failures are one of those things that take time to adjust and a lot of time dedicating to bouncing back. I feel the minute people realize you are single you are put in this kind of "loser" bin. People start analyzing you, they start to think about what is wrong with you. I kind of want to say these people, "There is nothing wrong with me!". I have just picked a whole bunch of real losers and now I am being smart, analytical and wise about who to be with. No! there is nothing wrong with being single and guess what I think that makes me more successful than the couple who fights so much because they realize the only thing they have in common is that they both liked that movie with that actor. I'm not saying I want a carbon copy of myself and I am not saying I have not been trying to find a boyfriend. It occurs to me from time to time I don't really want to be alone for the rest of my life. Yet, something also comes to mind that I don't want to be in another dull relationship that isn't going anywhere and I don't want to string someone else along with me when I don't know what's going to happen in the near future. All I'm saying is that being single or being in relationship should qualify the success of a person. I would rather rate someones success on the amount of happiness in their life. Someone who enjoys their life just how it is or is looking to improve on their quality of their success such as loyalty, honesty, caring, career but isn't concentrating on their latest conquest of love. I think I just went up a few points on my success chart, its time to buy or sell, its my choice. I think I'll let it soar.