Words of Wisdom from the Unwise: Uncertainty

Uncertainty.

I guess that's the worst feeling after a break up. What are you suppose to do? Should you call? Should you stay at home? Should you go out? Should you cry? Should you be happy its over? The questions cloud your very existence. Then other questions cloud these questions like Why did it happen? What did I do wrong? How can I change this? And a series of questions that never end. Then you go out and look for those answers and you are shrouded with even more doubt. "No, its not you, its me", "I need space", "we can be friends".

My favorite line. A line that you always want to hear. You know what..No! I don't want to be friends. I don't. You broke my heart. You are probably going to keep my favorite blanket and as you might find out later I'm not going to give you back your sweater. On that note no guy/girl/etc. should ever utter these words.

Yes, this is the girl who still is friends with most of her exes for some odd reason. I don't know why and no its not this desire to have them fall in love with her again. I just realize that maybe a year or 2 or 5 after a break up we can be friends. We can be buds maybe have a drink but maybe not. But definitely still be friends on Facebook just so you can stalk each other ever so often, I'm kidding (not really). I think its smarter to not be friends with your exes to be honest with you. Its better to remember with a little remorse and some good memories.

Maybe you are one of those people who still are best friends with that kid that they met in kindergarten but I'm not. I met my best friend in 8th grade, Europe, college and many other places. My best friend has been Karla who I still think the world of, my host brother, my boyfriends (at the time), my roommates and always my mother. What I'm getting at is that with time you will see less similarities like that kid in kindergarten. You will realize that you don't need to talk to your ex-significant other every single night. That in some way you might still care about them but there's not that longing desire to connect with them. All those questions you had before vanish. The uncertainty becomes clear again and you can start new.